We picked out our colors and just about finalized our wedding party. We have our wedding planner and photographer booked. Must I say they were expensive, but worth every cent! As far as the venue goes we do not want to get married in a church. More than likely, the wedding will be where we live. I think I have decided design of my wedding dress. The tuxedo that my fiance' and I love for him will have to be custom ordered. I am still searching for the right bridesmaids dresses. I want my bridesmaids dresses to be something causal, something they can wear again and definitely not too expensive. We do not want to have a huge wedding as far as the number of people we invite. I think we have settled at 80 people (max), including the bridal party. I am excited about planning our dream wedding, but boy can you say expensive. It is a mixed emotions take of thing. That is as far as we have gotten on planning.
My main focus right now is planning our engagement/housewarming party. Yes, we are knocking two birds out with one stone. It is going to be a combo party. We're taking our engagement pictures at the end of this month, which I am super excited about. I do not care about having a fancy engagement/housewarming party. It will be simple and casual.
People who have recently gotten married or planning to get married have been sharing their own experiences and advice. Most of the women say it is my day to be selfish. I wouldn't necessarily say selfish because I have to consider my fiance'. However, I will say it will be a process of being on accord with how we want things done and to flow. Friends of mine say they hope I am not a "BRIDEZILLA". First of all, those women on television are extremely over the top and I am no where near that. I would not dare act like a spoiled childish brat. I will say I plan to be very organized and detailed of my expectations for my wedding and wedding party. We have a vision that we want to execute. People have to choice to be in our wedding, to me it is a honor to be chosen.
Drama seems to like to try to enter our relationship for some reason; it never succeeds. We are not for the unnecessary drama regarding our wedding. It is our day to be stress-free, happy, and to celebrate our union as one. We are the ones paying for everything, so people should be respectful of that. Another thing I am dreading is working on the guest list. At the end of the day everyone can not attend our wedding. Catering for a wedding is one of the most expensive things we are going to have to pay for. We are sticking to our numbers for our receptions. I am sure people are going to be upset and have their opinions, which is fine. Those people are typically the ones we hardly ever speak too, who really isn't happy and support our union, or did not even pick up the phone to call/text and say congrats. I honestly, do not care about hurting people's feelings when it comes to our wedding. Heat always calms down over time. So, if people want to get mad they will eventually cool off. I would hope that people would be mature and respectful of our wishes, but that will not always be the case. By no means do I mean to sound negative, but it is the truth. Our wedding down is not to please other people. Unfortunately, I did not develop the characteristic of being a people pleaser. At the end of the day we can not make everyone happy and that is not one of my goals in life.
We are looking forward to getting married. The countdown is on. I plan to create a wedding page for us, once we finalize more details. I can not wait to share the ups and downs of this journey. I truly believe that it will all be worth in the end. Next year, I will be a married woman to my best friend!
Love, Hugs & Kisses,
Chanel